Thursday, October 30, 2008

Parent - Teacher Conference - 1st Grade

We are beginning to worry that Jonathan's minor regressions are sticking. He seems very absentminded, he is moving a lot again, his OCD has returned, and he seems in his own little world more than normal. I believe it has been 2 weeks since we noticed the regression.

Javier and I are a bit down this week after having the parent-teacher conference with his 1st grade teacher and also seeing that he is regressing. Academically, the teacher said that he is doing really well. He is even a bit more advanced in writing and math. She told the OT, ST and special ed teacher that she didn't understand why he has an IEP when he is a very good student and they told her to make sure to tell us because they know how far Jonathan has come these years and they fully credit it to our hard work and dedication. But the area that the teacher is very concerned about is his social skills. He has no friends. He doesn't hang out with anyone. Had not identified himself with any of the little groups already formed. He is a loner. During recess he is always by himself. His social interaction is so isolated, or better yet non-existent, that the Special Ed teacher and the 1st grade teacher suggested that a short-term and long-term goal are added to his IEP asap. In addition, they suggested the he starts participating in a social program that the school psychologist has. They are going to speak to the psychologist and let us know when he can start.

In kindergarten, he seemed to have more friends than now. But even though it hurts me dearly, it is no surprise. I have been trying to tell everyone at school that he has a social problem and they removed the goal from his IEP while he was still at kindergarten. But his 1st grade teacher spoke to the Special Ed teacher because she has seen hundreds of 1st graders and Jonathan's lack of friends and social involvement in the classroom worries her. She also witnessed a situation that raised a red flag in her head immediately. There was a child this past Tuesday in recess that fought with another child and was by himself. The teacher noticed that Jonathan was alone in a corner walking around and approached him. She asked Jonathan if he could play with the child because he was a great friend and Jonathan, after seeming like he was thinking about it for a few seconds, turned to his teacher and said "my brain is very big". The teacher could not say much and told Jonathan that that was great. She didn't tell us whether Jonathan did play with the kid or not, but I didn't care to hear anymore about it either.

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

I am so sorry you are going through this. It is very hard to see your kid regress, I have been there too, but still, it is a new change for him and with the kids like your son is that they actually progess or make a big step forward after these short regressions.
Good Luck, and I love your blog very much...